Life can sometimes feel demotivating and frustrating where you find yourself struggling to get things done, struggling with relationships or facing conflicts at work. At times your life can feel overwhelming that you just want to hide in your room and never leave until things sort itself out. Regardless of how difficult and challenging your life is, just know that you can get through this. Here are 14 questions to ask yourself if you are on the verge of giving up.



1. Have you waited for over a week?

At times our perception of life is skewed, we aren’t sure if we are thinking clearly, and there is no obvious external cause. We all experienced it before. Keep yourself going for a full week, whatever it takes, and determine if you still feel the same way then.



2. Have you pushed yourself over the boundary lately?

If you are overexerting yourself physically, emotionally, socially or intellectually, it would take a heavy toll that lingers on for days. Take some timeout whether it’s resting, alone time, or even relaxing while watching some of your favourite shows.



3. Do you feel paralysed for being indecisive?

Give yourself some time to sit down and think of a game plan for the day. If an important decision or issue is still holding you back, simply put it aside for now and go with doable tasks. At the moment, the important part is to overcome the feeling of being stagnant, even if it means doing something easy and simple.



4. Do you feel unattractive?

Take a selfie, and your friends will remind you how great looking you are. Help yourself and work together with others to fight society’s restrictions on what true beauty can look like. Being attractive is when you are confident and stop caring about what people think and when you stop trying to appeal towards pre-defined boxes of what beauty means.



5. Do you feel useless and ineffective?

Look for minor tasks and complete them, whether it’s as simple as responding to an email, washing clothes, or arranging stuff. You will feel much better getting smaller things done compared to completing anything in a day.



6. Do you feel sleepy and fatigued but have no desire to go to sleep yet?

Put aside your electronic devices, make yourself cosy in the bed and close your eyes for fifteen minutes. If you are still feeling awake after that, you can get up again; and restart the process. If you cannot fall asleep after 20 minutes, get up and find space to do some relaxing activity such as reading or listening to music.



7. Have you hugged a living being in the past couple of days?

If not, do so by getting a few hugs from your friends, loved ones or even pets. Most of them would enjoy it too if you’re not forcing it on them. Hugging is one of the best methods of easing up on yourself by relieving stress and makes you feel more calmer. Whenever you are feeling down, stressed or anxious, get someone a hug to liven up your mood.



8. Have you said something nice or complement a person the past day?

If not, take this opportunity now whether online or in person. Be genuine when you compliment how wonderful he or she is. While it is best not to go overboard or risk sounding disingenuous and not really meaning it. With a well time and meaningful compliment, you can make a person’s day a whole lot better.



9. Have you done any stretching for the past day?

If not, take this opportunity now whether online or in person. Be genuine when you compliment how wonderful he or she is. While it is best not to go overboard, or risk sounding disingenuous and not meaning it. With a well time and meaningful compliment, you can make a person’s day a whole lot better.



10. Have you taken any healthy meals for the past few hours?

Go grab some food that gives your body energy such as fruits, assorted nuts or a piece of cheese. A healthy meal helps to prevent malnutrition and protects your body from diseases such as obesity, heart disease, diabetes, cancer as well as stroke. You should also consider taking up cooking classes and learn how to incorporate more vegetables into healthy meals.



11. Did you have sufficient sleep lately?

You should take a short nap or go to sleep an hour or two early tonight. Sleep is highly important to maintain good mental health, so you need to ensure that you are getting sufficient rest on a daily basis.



12. Does your family or friends know what you’re going through?

Contact them if you are not doing great right now. It’s important to let people that care about you know how you are currently feeling or struggling right now. No one can thrive alone, you will need your family, and friends as pillars of support especially if you are struggling with your personal or work life. A simple phone call or even doing a catch up over a cup of coffee is all you need to extend an invitation to meet up.



13. Do you look forward to the present and future or do you dwell on the past?

Bad past events and experiences at that moment can be painful and demoralising. Open yourself to hope and dream about all the wonderful things and opportunities around you. Set goals and look forward instead of constantly looking back at the past.



14. When is the last time you write down your moments or memories?

It can be important to note down or talk about what you have been through. Write about your journey, whether in a journal or via a blog. Share them with your friends, family or even on social media to inspire or give hope to others.


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You Jing is a content writer who writes career and lifestyle contents to inspire job seekers and employers alike on their journey to work-life balance, empowerment and transformation in their career path.

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